As pride season approaches again, I’ve been thinking about the research I did a few years ago on gay, bi, and queer men’s experiences of holding...

Do you ever find yourself acting or thinking in a way which interferes with something you want out of life? You’ve probably heard terms like...

I was recently eyeing up the plant section in a store and reflecting on the relationship some gay men have with plants. From a young age I was drawn...

Many gay men grew up without the support and affirmation that children need during their development.  All children need to have their worth...

One of the most common things I’ll hear from gay men in counselling is that they feel like they’re “behind” in life. Now, it could be argued that...

When I started working with gay men in the mental health field, I noticed a phenomenon that puzzled me at first. I’d hear gay men say things like: •...

Often times you’ll see the advice that you should just “set boundaries” to handle challenging relationship dynamics. But what does this even mean?...

When I’m having a consultation call with potential clients, it’s common for someone to say “I’m not really sure what to ask actually.” And this...

As I write this at the end of 2020, I can’t help but think how challenging this year has been (to put it mildly). One thing that I’m hearing from a...

The winter holidays can be a mixture of fun and stress (and every other emotion) for a lot of people. But for gay men, there can be some specific...

I was once in a counselling training where the trainer said “there’s no such thing as client resistance, just inflexible counsellors.” You could...

I remember going into a Chapters bookstore in my late teens and looking at the “gay and lesbian books” section. It was a tiny cluster of books, but...

Did you notice the pink letters on the picture for this article? Have a look if you didn’t, and just notice what you think and feel. It will relate...

There has been an unbelievable amount of stressors in the world since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. For gay men, these extra stressors add to...

I once told my counsellor how I sometimes felt my self-worth was this tiny platform I was standing on, and that certain situations could just knock...