In recent years, iced coffee has often been humorously stamped as a part of gay culture. And although there are no actual statistics on the...
How that Iced Coffee Might Be Affecting Your Mental Health
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Jordan Gruenhage
As a counsellor at The Centre for Gay Counselling, Jordan excels at helping fellow gay men understand their emotions better, heal from past trauma, and grow their sense of self-worth so that they can enjoy living fully as themselves. He believes that gay men have inherent worth, and that they deserve to live fulfilling lives.
What if I Don’t Feel Pride as a Gay Man?
As pride season approaches again, I’ve been thinking about the research I did a few years ago on gay, bi, and queer men’s experiences of holding...
Gay Men & Self-Sabotage: How to Befriend Your Inner Saboteur
Do you ever find yourself acting or thinking in a way which interferes with something you want out of life? You’ve probably heard terms like...
8 Ways Plants are Teaching Gay Men to Live Mindfully & Care for Themselves Without Judgment
I was recently eyeing up the plant section in a store and reflecting on the relationship some gay men have with plants. From a young age I was drawn...
How Gay Men Can Heal from Infidelity
Gay relationships are already under more stress than the average straight relationship. Whether it’s navigating different levels of outness or...
A Letter to Your Younger Gay Self
Many gay men grew up without the support and affirmation that children need during their development. All children need to have their worth...
Feeling Behind in Life? If You’re a Gay Man, This Might be the Reason
One of the most common things I’ll hear from gay men in counselling is that they feel like they’re “behind” in life. Now, it could be argued that...
This One Word Makes Gay Men Cringe
When I started working with gay men in the mental health field, I noticed a phenomenon that puzzled me at first. I’d hear gay men say things like: •...
What is the Gottman Method? Can it Help Gay Men Build Stronger Relationships?
Let’s be real, a lot of gay men didn’t grow up with healthy models of gay relationships around them that they could internalize and then reference...
3 Myths About Gay Men & Trauma
The word “trauma” has become more common in everyday language, but what actually is trauma? And how does it show up for gay men? If you search for a...
A Quick Guide for Gay Men Who Want to Set Better Boundaries
Often times you’ll see the advice that you should just “set boundaries” to handle challenging relationship dynamics. But what does this even mean?...
How to Find a Gay Counsellor in 2021
When I’m having a consultation call with potential clients, it’s common for someone to say “I’m not really sure what to ask actually.” And this...
How to Visit Somewhere Calming (Almost Instantly)
As I write this at the end of 2020, I can’t help but think how challenging this year has been (to put it mildly). One thing that I’m hearing from a...
6 Tips to Help Gay Men Enjoy the Winter Holidays
The winter holidays can be a mixture of fun and stress (and every other emotion) for a lot of people. But for gay men, there can be some specific...
5 Books Gay Men Can Read to Improve Their Lives
I remember going into a Chapters bookstore in my late teens and looking at the “gay and lesbian books” section. It was a tiny cluster of books, but...
Internalized Homophobia: Where it Comes From & What You Can Do About It Today
Did you notice the pink letters on the picture for this article? Have a look if you didn’t, and just notice what you think and feel. It will relate...
17 Ways Gay Men Can Manage Their Anxiety During Uncertain Times
There has been an unbelievable amount of stressors in the world since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. For gay men, these extra stressors add to...
Gay Men: Your Worth Already Exists (But You Might Need to Uncover It)
I once told my counsellor how I sometimes felt my self-worth was this tiny platform I was standing on, and that certain situations could just knock...
How Does Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Show Up for Gay Men?
Ever found yourself reacting instantly to something without even thinking about it? If you said yes, then you already know something about this...
What is EMDR? Can it Really Help Gay Men with Trauma?
I first sought counselling years ago for a feeling of being “stuck” in events from my past. As a gay man who was raised in a religious community...
What Can Gay Men Expect in Counselling?
Starting counselling can be something that floats in your mind (or on your to-do list) for months, or even years. And even with it being something...
5 Benefits of Online Counselling for Gay Men
As I write this, COVID-19 has forced a lot of activities online that would otherwise be in-person. We know online counselling works. But is there...
Does Online Counselling Actually Work for Gay Men?
Does online counselling actually work? I asked myself this very question when I sought out my own counselling. And to be honest, I wasn’t convinced...